How to help a loved one to change?
Yesterday, after walking the first warm weather, we the young man went into a cafe, where he developed the subsequent drama. We have long argued. I said that all our life is just our personal choice. Spoke about the responsibility for their destiny, about choosing a path through our daily decisions. The man (sincerely loved by me) said that we are nothing in this life is never solved. The choice is impossible that we are managed by the opinions of others, the view of society, family, friends. And what if everyone actually chose something, we would have anarchy and the Apocalypse. And so we all must, they say, in the world and holds. I started to argue that it’s stupid and irresponsible to have a screen and say: “Yes if I could, but can’t help it”… Good excuse. And now I just can not understand. Is it possible to say that one of us is right? And is it possible to “cure” a loved one from this idea and teach it something else? And if I do something right to teach another person? Who told me that I’m right? And if you strive every day even for a drop cameraswith, do you have the right to develop someone? If the family must be a spiritual harmony, can it be about something important to think differently and stay close friends? I think I’m wallowing in a rut of their own delusions…
Nastya, hi. Let me get this straight:
Is it possible to say that one of us is right?
It’s like asking is there death? Of course, there is – we are constantly seeing. But will also the rights that say about immortality. If we proceed from the position that man is not his body, death is immediately beneath the big question in abdesselem sense. The spirit is eternal.
So in your dispute. Of course, free choice is what distinguishes man from animal. This is the essence and meaning of our existence, which determines everything. Not to choose is also part of this free choice.
Another issue is that all our existence is woven into God’s plan and any higher plans – we all walk under God and controlled by him. But again, it’s meanings from the series: “the life of the spirit in the wheel of samsara”.
In your situation, how would you say that death exists, and your boyfriend it persistently denies. Who is closer to objective reality, given that both of them are right?
And is it possible to “cure” a loved one from this idea and teach it something else?
He can do it himself. Or not to do.
And if I do something right to teach another person?
Until then, until you are told to do so.
Who told me that I’m right?
Good question;) You all and will always tell you you’re right and what’s wrong. Aerobatics is to take the right to be right. Give yourself permission to live and think as you see fit.
And if you strive every day even for a drop cameraswith, do you have the right to develop someone?
We can’t help, sorry. Only able to change ourselves and show others how we did it. If your changes are not in words but in deeds – they will affect those who are in your near field, and then the coverage can be increased at least to the world — depends on the internal capacity.
«Save yourself. Around you will save thousands».
If the family must be a spiritual harmony, can it be about something important to think differently and stay close friends?
Here it is already difficult time. How do I answer it for myself?
People can think about something important in different ways and remain friends, Yes, it happens, but when it comes to different levels of vibration – no overlapping frequencies of perception of this reality, then the perspective on this relationship is unlikely to be spiritually close.
It’s hard for me now to explain where is that fine line between General ideas, which tend to be easily changed, and the deep vibrations of man, as the performance of his life gauge. I can only say about the only me you see the way to determine this threshold experimentally (in different life issues). Only this way you may not like…
One of a kind opportunity to learn to identify the thin line between fanaticism and deep love, between love and blind passion, between the truth and what it isn’t is it repeatedly to cross ….
Repeatedly to go over the line. To make a mistake. To get burned.
To fall, as the only way to learn to balance on the rope of mindfulness, without falling.
It is the many errors of my past and present helped me to develop this sense – ability to go on the edge, to take risks without losing balance. It doesn’t mean I’m not mistaken. Just began to do it less and move much faster.
— Why can’t I?
— You are a little mistaken.
Trying to protect yourself from mistakes, people also protect yourself from happy multifaceted life with breathtaking scenery that are only available at certain altitudes.
As for your question.
To live in perfect harmony with their vibration just will not work, and to change the other person with your intentions, first, it is useless, secondly, is simply impossible. Such ships will disperse. In and of themselves. Maybe natural, maybe a distressing and painful when you have to go through numerous biases. After all, if he (or she) is good in all the senses of man, how to go? You can try to stay. But if the waves are not synchronized — it threatens internal ravindernath both. Or degradation of your potentials, and as a consequence dull pain on the principle of “all is well, but nothing good” .
Strong unions, not by need (“don’t get divorced because of the children” or “because there is nowhere to go”), and as the spirit is a relationship where both partners along the way . Their ships have a single rate and move around, but no one is transplanted on Board the other person is always mutual development together is more interesting than one at a time, but not a dissolution of the partner and not a movement for his energy bill. This path is not based on fear (of loneliness, children, financial issues, public opinion, “it’s time!”), and unbound love and deep mutual respect.
Vibration of such ships could also change before you take a single course, but everyone did it on their own . not to adjust to the desires of a partner that he loved me (and thereby delivered from the main nightmare “nobody loves me”).
The ability to wait for a partner, not throwing himself into the maelstrom dushegubitelnim compromise, but did not play in solitude, is a real art and aerobatics. If someone over me bless the coverage of this aspect, this issue will be devoted to my texts.
While there are no guarantees. It’s the rules. Besides, people can change the vibration in the course of life, and the one who suits you today, tomorrow may remain in the other side. Not above or below – just in another.
Close-minded people together!
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