“Marriage is a relationship between husband and wife, where the independence of both parties is equal, the dependence mutual and the obligation reciprocal.”
What is the impact on children, the relationship between husband and wife?
The relationship between husband and wife are in the system of family relations adult, marital subsystem. And as in every system, one subsystem affects another, because they are all interrelated.
So the answer to the question “what is the impact on children, the relationship between husband and wife?” is simple: “the Most direct way! Directly!”. Another question – how exactly are affected?
Taking as a basis the statement L. N. Tolstoy’s “All happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”, say that a harmonious relationship between husband and wife are having a positive impact on relationships with children, and the relationship between children with each other.
But unhappy, conflictual relationship between husband and wife negatively affect parent-child relationships, and create friction in the relationship with the children both inside and outside the family, do not allow them to adequately adapt in society.
How dysfunctional relationship between husband and wife affect Continue reading
How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others Continue reading
Usually in the mind of a parent separated from the love of discipline, as if they were two completely independent phenomena. These parents believe that discipline means punishment (some even spanking). The first thing we must realize to teach a child to be disciplined, to make him feel that you love him: this is the main and most important part of good discipline. If the child feels that the parents are standing behind him, he is really hard to identify with them and their values. If there is no strong, healthy communication with parents, the child responds to the dictates of parents with anger, hostility, resentment. He considers each request or requirement as imposed on him the duty and learns to actively resist. In the most severe cases, he viewed them with disgust, does everything out of spite, right the contrary. Only healthy, based on the unconditional love of parents and children can help to overcome all life’s crises. Another important aspect of appropriate love – the ability to carefully and intently listen to the child.
When a child is sure that you understand his feelings,thoughts, desires, he will be much more willing to respond to your discipline requirements.Nothing to the extent not irritating Continue reading