How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others Continue reading
“The child and magic” by Maurice Ravel claimed as a children’s show. The event focused on the immediacy of perception. Of course, spontaneity is different for everyone, but at the heart of any spontaneity — not a preparation, but the involvement, lack of prejudice, but not total wildness. That is, the audience who came to the children’s Opera in theatre, at least, understands that the Opera is where they sing. We can say that this is the only condition for the direct perception of children’s melodramatic performance.
Now, if you try to directly perceive what showed the Bolshoi theatre, we get the following picture:
about an hour on the scene of animated objects and animals with insects bullying child
which is in the throes of puberty, overstimulation them hurt or offended. Torn books, broken cups, broken clock, torn Wallpaper, and even the injured squirrel scolding, name-calling, blaming, beat, trample and otherwise “snub” the poor teenager.
It is difficult to say how common in world literature educational motive of revenge things to his master, but in a Russian children’s classics enough to remember “the Fedora’s grief” by K. I. Chukovsky Continue reading
Usually in the mind of a parent separated from the love of discipline, as if they were two completely independent phenomena. These parents believe that discipline means punishment (some even spanking). The first thing we must realize to teach a child to be disciplined, to make him feel that you love him: this is the main and most important part of good discipline. If the child feels that the parents are standing behind him, he is really hard to identify with them and their values. If there is no strong, healthy communication with parents, the child responds to the dictates of parents with anger, hostility, resentment. He considers each request or requirement as imposed on him the duty and learns to actively resist. In the most severe cases, he viewed them with disgust, does everything out of spite, right the contrary. Only healthy, based on the unconditional love of parents and children can help to overcome all life’s crises. Another important aspect of appropriate love – the ability to carefully and intently listen to the child.
When a child is sure that you understand his feelings,thoughts, desires, he will be much more willing to respond to your discipline requirements.Nothing to the extent not irritating Continue reading