How much is written, much is said about the relationship between parents and children. And things are there. Many parents dissatisfied with their children, criticizing their actions and want to live life for them. In turn, the children silently hate their parents for interfering in their lives, for control and manipulation, scandals and reproaches.
And this situation has been continued for thousands of years and most likely appeared simultaneously with the emergence of mankind.
Of course, there are a few happy families, where between parents and children prevails respect and understanding. And I want to believe that most of these families. But in this article I would like to refer to it is destructive families. Families that do harm to normal and the free development of personality.
So, what kinds of relationships do happen in families.
1. Parents are tyrants. Parents try to completely subjugate the will of the children. They control their every move, every action. Of course, this is covered with talk of love and care. But love does not control and is not overwhelming. True love believes and supports, demanding nothing in return. And how many parents tried to convince themselves and others Continue reading
Usually in the mind of a parent separated from the love of discipline, as if they were two completely independent phenomena. These parents believe that discipline means punishment (some even spanking). The first thing we must realize to teach a child to be disciplined, to make him feel that you love him: this is the main and most important part of good discipline. If the child feels that the parents are standing behind him, he is really hard to identify with them and their values. If there is no strong, healthy communication with parents, the child responds to the dictates of parents with anger, hostility, resentment. He considers each request or requirement as imposed on him the duty and learns to actively resist. In the most severe cases, he viewed them with disgust, does everything out of spite, right the contrary. Only healthy, based on the unconditional love of parents and children can help to overcome all life’s crises. Another important aspect of appropriate love – the ability to carefully and intently listen to the child.
When a child is sure that you understand his feelings,thoughts, desires, he will be much more willing to respond to your discipline requirements.Nothing to the extent not irritating Continue reading
The subject of child theft is known by many parents. This problem usually relates to “shameful” and allow her sometimes under force not to everyone. If you learned that the child was stolen, do not rush to shout, to scold and punish! And even if the theft of your son or daughter like a thunder in a clear sky, still do not give in to emotions. In this situation it is important to do so not just to resolve the situation, and to find its cause and prevent negative actions in the future.
Stealing or kleptomania?
Many parents, having caught a child stealing, start to panic: the child is a thief and should be treated!
Let’s clarify the terminology. Child stealing and kleptomania have their similarities, but still, it’s very different concepts. If the child is brought from kindergarten someone else’s toy or pulled from dad’s wallet a few bucks, it’s not a reason for hospitalization.
Kleptomania – mental disorder, morbid desire to steal, is very rare and almost exclusively in adults.
So if you caught your child stealing, do not rush to carry him to the doctors. Try to find the reasons for this situation.
Why do children steal?
To understand the cause and identify the motive of the negative behavior of the child, you need to consider his age. If small children are stealing from ignorance “own” and “alien”, then teenagers, Continue reading